Vlore

Upon arrival I remember stepping off the plain and retreating to a seat in the cafe as my ride had not yet arrived. I watched as groups would enter for their loved ones, greet each other and leave together. The women would always greet each other by a kiss to each cheek and then a hug. The women and men would do the same. Men would place their heads together, touching temples on each side. The culture is very affectionate between family and friends. After talking to some Albanians about behaviors that are considered polite they gave me a crash course. They explained the greeting with a kiss or placing heads together. They told me that on a bus or in a room, when a woman or elderly person enters, it is customary for men to give up their seat. When people enter a room it is correct to rise and greet them. It is also expected that when walking up stairs, men walk in front of women, and behind them on the way down. Students are expected to rise to greet their teachers. Greetings may be seen as affectionate, but Albania is a more conservative nation. For example, kissing is not common in public. Showing intimate affection is not something you would commonly see outside of the home or in the presence of guests. Albanians are known for being a hospitable people. A friend shared with me a saying, "An Albanian household is always open to God and guests." A visit is not seen as a quick "drop by." When visiting someone it is important you have given yourself time to be able to sit down, chat, and maybe share a drink. It is not so polite to just drop in and then leave. When guests arrive to the house the hosts will rise from their seats and offer them to their guests.